Friday, June 02, 2006

A Wonderfully Quiet Day

Our 10th anniversary was yesterday. The three older boys were at Grandma and Grandpa's house overnight, so we went to play cards at a friend's house and then slept in the next morning. We went out for lunch and spent the afternoon strolling around the Plaza and the Legends in no particular hurry at all. Then we went to pick up the boys and spent part of the evening with my folks.

It was quiet, refreshing, and relaxing. And best of all, we were together all day.

But it's funny how much pressure you feel to do something spectacular and expensive for major anniversaries. I certainly felt the need to go on a cruise or take a trip somewhere but honestly it's just not doable. Even if we had the funds, we have a brand new baby now and I'm at the front end of a very busy summer. This probably isn't the time or place to give into peer pressure.

It also helps that we have such a well-rounded relationship. When you already are the focus of each other's lives, there's less real need to go "spend time on your relationship." That's already a part of our lifestyle – spending time on our relationship on a daily basis! I'm guessing that we have spent more hours talking about it than most people; like a mechanic fine tuning the engine that is his pride and joy, our relationship is constantly before us.

I suppose that a special lover's getaway would be more romantic – and I'm not against romance and sentiment – but there's a quiet security, stable and confident, that underpins our marriage. It's healthy and robust which, though not exciting, is more remarkable and valuable than a thousand honeymoons.

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