At what point do you confront an habitual liar?
He doesn't seem to realize that lies don't last forever. A lie has a short lifespan and dies more quickly than you'd think. It comes unraveled and spills over the top; it's impossible to keep a lie going for any great length of time before suspicion begins to grow.
But the suspicious listeners are seldom forward enough to confront the liar directly. Thus the liar assumes that he's successfully pulled off another one. Emboldened, the liar continues to lie without being confronted.
But the liar is losing whether he knows it or not – he's losing credibility. After enough lies are found out, the "boy-who-cried-wolf factor" kicks in and the liar loses credibility. Even if he desperately needs to be believed, no one believes him anymore.
Wouldn't it be better to confront the person before it gets that far? To let them know that they're only hurting themselves? It would be uncomfortable and possibly damning, but an habitual liar is doing far more damage than they know.
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